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Bradsroom's avatar

Learning that my “too much” will be “just right “ will be so divine when the time comes. I, too, have sometimes wished I would have “loved less” to stay in a relationship but that wouldn’t have been my true nature. Who I am is who I am and I won’t change that for anyone because someone out there is praying for exactly the person I am becoming each and every day. Thank you for sharing this writing, it truly resonated with me this evening.

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hannah's avatar

“When I love, it is all-consuming.” This is so so so relatable oml

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Keanan Lee's avatar

It's funny that no matter how much time passes, no matter how much the world progress and changes, the same feelings, doubts and insecurities plague us.

Whether we are successful or not we still have the same yearnings for love.

And even when we believe we've found it, the fear of losing it and doubt of it still linger.

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Lisa Majeska's avatar

One of the most honest monologues ever! Great write up on it!

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Bimpee_a's avatar

You just explained my whole life

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Erin's avatar

"we're tired of surviving alone"

this whole post is so relatable and you beautifully and eloquently captured the thoughts of so many of us. thank you for sharing.

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Emily Mae's avatar

have we discovered a solution to this or is it only in our human nature to yearn for romantic love?

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Nathalie James's avatar

"They choose when to return your worn heart." So beautiful and true.

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Mya's avatar

Truly an amazing and quite emotional read!

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gaby green's avatar

This is why I love Greta Gerwig's adaptation so much. Jo is already a very complex character, but giving her these realizations of her loneliness make her feel all the more real.

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Madison  Fagan's avatar

“She longed to be loved so badly that, night after night, call after call, she kept trying to earn it”, this line is so intimate ! I always used to hear things like “I could never see you in a relationship” and I didn’t view myself highly, so when I got into my first relationship I so deeply wanted it. I can’t even say I deeply wanted love because I didn’t know what that meant I just wanted to prove that someone could find me attractive enough, funny enough, and interesting enough to be with me!

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Katie Davis's avatar

this monologue has lived rent free in my mind since 2020 -- thank you for such a nuanced take on it!!

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Candace Flynn's avatar

Reading this on a Sunday night healed something in me.

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Teddi's avatar

The longing is so intolerable but I still relish in it .It is the rope the entangles us

Thank You

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I S M A I L's avatar

Great write up

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Antarleena's avatar

I found closure to why I feel in a certain way in this line, "I care more to be loved".. I felt I'm self absorbed, even after everything being right why wasn't ever loving someone enough for me! And here it answers it all. I'm born with capabilities to love unconditionally, but what I subconsciously search for is to be loved.

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