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Lee Lucci's avatar

This hurts to read but in a good way. Nailed it. "I want my exes to be RUINED FOR LIFE because no one can compare to me," is the underlying, narcissistic sentiment that we don't want to admit we have.

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The Demure Hedonist's avatar

My ex doesn’t have someone new yet, but reading this made me realize how much I’m already bracing for that moment. The way you described it felt so true it almost hurt.

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Rory O'Brien's avatar

Superb writing, you've approached a real struggle that people tend not to admit to in such a direct and honest way. "Not because it’s over, but because he’s now entered a chapter of his life you’ll never touch—not even in the footnotes" is an incredible line.

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Twesigyomukama Andrew's avatar

For sure I'm facing this . My ex lives in my head I try to forget but it all ends in vain

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Sari's avatar

this is violently accurate

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Onebuffbob's avatar

I had to leave this for a second because I couldn’t stop picturing my ex. I’m so happy I finished though. It reassured where I am in life right now, and that my choices working for me.

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k.'s avatar

This was beautiful and very relatable it’s nice to know people feel the same way haha

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Daniela Giraldo's avatar

This is exactly how it feels and I’m currently feeling it. It’s the worst and I’m so glad you wrote about it. I feel seen and so validated. Thank you

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Antonia Bentel's avatar

Really really loved this — it’s so unbelievably true and real and SOOOOO well put!!!!

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bailey's avatar

this is beautiful!!!! such a good piece

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Ella's avatar

This is gorgeous, I absolutely love this. When you said: “And it is an empty life to be only half of a whole person when alone” … oh my life I felt that in my soul 😮‍💨 You explained the feeling perfectly and I’m so grateful to have found this piece and had the pleasure of reading it💕

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farah marianne's avatar

The timing is perfect, are we all just going through a breakup? 😅

My favourite part is “He may remember you fondly, bitterly, or even worse: with absolute indifference.” And “it’s not a matter of if but when”.

It gets to a point during the breakup when you realize you’re responsible for creating your new life and evolving. And you are right, that version of you will no longer exist anyways and the puzzles won’t fit. Thank you for this, I feel less alone 🩷

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Stressed and Sketched's avatar

It’s the moment when your last hope shatters. And it hurts more than anything.

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Martella's avatar

Sometimes we might think that we still want them until we realize we wouldn’t even take them back if they come to us. It’s just that we’re not ready to see them with someone else.

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alive archive's avatar

so reflective, so well written - love this

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Leah's avatar

ahhh this is perfect

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